When it comes to talking about adoption, we must think more intensely about our language. Words have an impact on people’s lives. As adults connected to adoption, this can be difficult to navigate at best. But for youth, the language we use surrounding adoption packs a powerful punch, one that can sometimes bully kids into feeling insecure or uncertain about their family and themselves.
Today’s modern family is evolving and ever changing and so too are their needs. Regardless of makeup, all families have a need and a right to be healthy and strong, which requires families to be able to live their truth.
The month of May is an opportunity to raise awareness, provide education and engage in advocacy work surrounding foster care and foster care adoption. It is imperative that we join together as allies in generating solutions that create pathways for children and families to be healthy and strong.
Openness is a common aspect of the adoption experience today with research showing that over 95 percent of agencies offer some form of open adoption. In many ways, the relationships that are developed through open adoption are no different than other types of modern family arrangements today such as blended families, families headed by LGBTQ parents, step-parenting, and those that come together through assisted reproduction technologies such as donor origins.
The truth is two people put me on this Earth. Two more kept me here. All four are very important to me in their own way. And I know that I and all adoptees deserve the human right to know where we came from just like everybody else who claps, and fights to survive and win in the arena.
Lion is a must-see film for those in the adoption constellation. It’s also for anyone who has felt the love of a mother, sibling or a child. Lion reminds us to never give up on unspoken dreams for our families despite impossible odds.
As I recognize that my identity and voice as AdoptiveBlackMom serves as a rare peek behind the veil of adoptive and black parenting of an older child, I continue to write about my life as an adoptive parent mostly for myself. I use the online space I’ve created as my own notebook but I recognize and deeply appreciate that my experiences may be useful to other parents.
Racial and ethnic self-understanding illuminates the way in which the self can become invisible rather than understood.” For decades, transracial adoptees have shared their experiences related to race, adoption and identity and what they need — this generation is no different.
Bringing a child into a family—whether by birth, adoption or the blending of families—is life-changing for everyone. When we recognize the lifelong impact and put children at the center, adoption can truly represent an evolved definition of family.
Meaningful change will only occur when we can organize and align ourselves with one another to educate society in a healthy and realistic way about adoption.